The birth of my first child, Caroline, was joyful, but also disorienting. Unlike my wife, I hadn't dreamed of being a parent since I was a child. In fact, I hadn't given it much thought. But once Caroline arrived, I knew I wanted to be a different father than my own dad, who disregarded any aspect of child-rearing as women's work. I took care of Caroline while I finished graduate school and my wife worked her corporate job. This thrust me into completely new territory.